THE joys of parents are secret; and so are their griefs and fears.  They cannot utter the one; nor they will not utter the other.  Children sweeten labors1; but they make misfortunes more bitter. They increase the cares of life; but they mitigate the remembrance of death.  The perpetuity by generation is common to beasts; but memory, merit, and noble works, are proper to men.  And surely a man shall see the noblest works and foundations have proceeded from childless men; which have sought to express the images of their minds, where those of their bodies have failed.  So the care of posterity is most in them, that have no posterity. They that are the first raisers of their houses, are most indulgent towards their children; beholding4 them as the continuance, not only of their kind, but of their work; and so both children and creatures.
 
The difference in affection, of parents towards their several children, is many times unequal; and sometimes unworthy; especially in the mothers; as Solomon saith, A wise son rejoiceth the father, but an ungracious son shames the mother.  A man shall see, where there is a house full of children, one or two of the eldest5 respected, and the youngest made wantons; but in the midst, some that are as it were forgotten, who many times, nevertheless, prove the best.  The illiberality of parents, in allowance towards their children, is an harmful error; makes them base; acquaints them with shifts; makes them sort with mean company; and makes them surfeit more when they come to plenty.  And therefore the proof is best, when men keep their authority towards the children, but not heir purse.  Men have a foolish manner (both parents and schoolmasters and servants) in creating and breeding an emulation between brothers, during childhood, which many times sorteth to discord9 when they are men, and disturbeth families.