There is a child, accidentally hit the table and cried. Chinese mother after seeing the first action is to hand hit the table, then coaxing,good cry, Japan's mother is not the case, she will be asked to take the child back around the table again, and then inspired him: The reason why people would hit the table, there are generally three cases one you run too fast, not brake foot; II. do not pay attention to see the road; the third is something else on your mind is what kind of situation you just belong。
The table is dead, it will not take the initiative to butt, so people will hit the table, is the people's fault, not the fault of the table. Chinese mother hand hit the table, it means in the education of children, it was all the fault of the table, not your fault, in this kind of education for young children, the case of the first things is to shirk its responsibility and do everything possible to find reasons to justify himself, and pick someone obsessed with problems.
Japanese mother's practice, it is in teaching children to assume their responsibilities brave, without going to blindly accuse others. Grew up in the kind of education children, everything is always the first to review their own inadequacies.
In fact, there is little to distinguish between things that can be very thorough in the end is right or wrong, who are often are wrong, the difference is less wrong more wrong. If the parties can each assume their share of the responsibility, seriously review their own inadequacies, not that there is anything to solve it Between departments, too, when someone pointed out to us is insufficient, the first not to refute, to argue Force Hypnosis。
Magic water, but first be reviewed, really wrong, immediately change, is indeed true, but also as a warning to pay more attention. attitude decides everything. The same thing, the attitude is different, the result is different. Therefore, in order to get things done, we must first correct attitude is good.